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    @Felicia 253206 wrote:

    Hello

    Does anybody know if the craving for alcohol gets better after time? My councellor (20years sober) once said that he would not wish the first year of sobriety on his worst enemy – does this mean it gets better after a year?

    I have just done 3 ½ months and the going is getting tough now.

    Felicia

    I’m told that the first year is the hardest but hang in there. I’ve also heard that living life sober is far more exciting and meaningful than seeing the world through blurry eyes.

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    @Marcusk87 2932695 wrote:

    I dont even know if im an alcoholic. I cant manage my life sober either. ITs like bad if im sober but suicide if I drink. No win. Just a lesser of 2 evils.

    That’s alcoholism as I know it.

    The level of honesty you bring to your sobriety is up to you. The level of willingness you bring to your sobriety is up to you. A good sponsor can help you through all this anger, but nobody can help you if you’re not honest and willing. There is a win — it’s in the honesty and the willingness. It’s not without pain and it doesn’t happen overnight — and doesn’t happen at all unless you make the decision.

    If you feel you can’t talk with your sponsor, or if your sponsor isn’t willing to take you through the steps, find another one. Please.

    Peace & Love,
    Sugah

    Anonymous
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    My advice is the same as others have posted-just hang in there, it’ll get better. After a while, your mind will BE USED to being sober- that’ll be the big breakthrough. It’s just Getting there that’s so freaking tough………………

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    @Marcusk87 2932695 wrote:

    I dont even know if im an alcoholic. I cant manage my life sober either. ITs like bad if im sober but suicide if I drink. No win. Just a lesser of 2 evils.

    Me to. I suffered from alcohol-issues when I drank and alcohol-ISM when I stopped drinking. The further I got away from my last drink the more restless, irritable and discontented I felt.

    Having had a spiritual awakening as a result of taking the 12 steps, I find my life is still unmanageable. However, I feel like I am not suffering as much. I no longer want to use alcohol every time things go wrong. In fact, even if EVERYTHING goes wrong during the day, when my head hits the pillow, I feel a sense of purpose and peace of mind that alcohol only gave me in my early days of drinking.

    Anonymous
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    Hey Marcus,

    Here’s someone else who was going to “show them” by jumping off a bridge….turned out allright in my humble opinion. Take a peek if you have 12.5 minutes to spare….

    YouTube – Ferguson Speaks From The Heart

    Anonymous
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    Hey Marcus.

    Have You ever considered therapy…it sounds to me like you might benefit from professional help.

    Keep us posted…we care.

    Anonymous
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    Hi Marcusk – welcome and I hope whatever hurts will get better soon! Three years is a long and great time!

    Anonymous
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    @Marcusk87 2932695 wrote:

    I dont even know if im an alcoholic. I cant manage my life sober either. ITs like bad if im sober but suicide if I drink. No win. Just a lesser of 2 evils.

    The unmanageability that they talk of in the 1st step is actually not about DUIs, broken relationships and falling down the stairs. It’s about the internal unmanageability. Restlessness, irritability and discontentedness– when we’re sober. You see, I used alcohol to treat my alcoholism. It solved my distress, made me feel better. So it follows that we are miserable and unmanageable when we’re sober.

    That’s why we can’t just “not drink.” We need to heal and recover.

    Anonymous
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    Marcus, a good thing for people who are dealing with these type of issues, that I hear quite often in the rooms, is to start and look in a mirror and be honest with yourself. It is okay to be you and not everybody has to like you, we are all different with many different opinions and foundations. Acceptance is a big part of recovery and you are going to have to learn to like yourself. This is where your priorities lie and what makes recovery so important, it must be put way at the top of the list so everything else falls in place. Stop lying to people and stop lying to yourself, before you say something stop and think about it, you do not have to please everybody.

    Anonymous
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    Hello

    Does anybody know if the craving for alcohol gets better after time? My councellor (20years sober) once said that he would not wish the first year of sobriety on his worst enemy – does this mean it gets better after a year?

    I have just done 3 ½ months and the going is getting tough now.

    Felicia

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