The view that happiness and unhappiness come from external things and people puts us in a predicament, because we can never completely control the people and things around us. We try to obtain what we want, but we never have enough. Continuously disappointed, we search for more and better of whatever it is we think will bring us happiness.
Likewise, we think that whenever we have a problem, it’s due to an external person or thing. We attribute our emotional problems to the way or parents treated us when we were young. We blame our present dissatisfaction on our employers, employees, relatives, or friends. We wish that the people around us would learn to treat us better.
Others aren’t what we want them to be, and we are constantly frustrated in our attempts to make them change. Our lives can become very complicated as we try to make the world what we want it to be. Unfortunately, the world doesn’t cooperate.